You've developed an online relationship with someone who is now asking you for money? You suspect the person isn't who they claim to be? You're not alone and it's not your fault. Romance scammers are professional manipulators who exploit emotions.
An Important Message
If you're reading this page, you're showing courage. Victims of romance fraud often feel shame or guilt. Know that these fraudsters are manipulation experts who target intelligent and generous people. We're here to help you, without judgment.
How Does Romance Fraud Work?
Phase 1: Initial Contact
The fraudster contacts you via:
- Dating sites: Tinder, Bumble, Match, POF
- Social media: Facebook, Instagram
- Online games or forums
The profile is often an attractive person, often military, doctor, engineer working abroad.
Phase 2: Seduction (Love Bombing)
- Constant messages, intense attention
- Quick declarations of love
- Future plans together
- Video calls avoided or "impossible"
- Excuses for never meeting in person
Phase 3: Isolation
- Encourages you to keep the relationship secret
- Criticizes loved ones who ask questions
- Becomes your main confidant
Phase 4: The Money Request
After weeks or months, an "emergency" arises:
- "I'm stuck abroad, I need money to come back"
- "My son is sick and I need help with medical bills"
- "I have a problem with customs, I need to pay fees"
- "I have an incredible investment opportunity"
Real testimony:
"We met on Facebook. He said he was an engineer on an oil platform. For 8 months, we talked every day. He called me 'my love', we planned our wedding. Then he had an 'accident' and needed $15,000 to come back to Canada. I sent the money. Then there were other emergencies... In total, I lost $47,000."
Signs of Romance Fraud
Red Flags
- Refuses or avoids video calls
- Always has an excuse for not meeting
- Very quick declarations of love
- Works abroad (military, oil platform, humanitarian doctor)
- Asks for money, regardless of reason
- Asks for gift cards or crypto transfers
- Inconsistent or changing stories
- Photos too perfect (often stolen)
How to Verify?
- Reverse image search: Upload their photo to Google Images or TinEye
- Check the profile: How long has it existed? How many friends/followers?
- Insist on a video call: Constant refusal is suspicious
- Talk to a loved one: An outside perspective can help
What to Do If You're a Victim?
Step 1: Stop All Contact
It's emotionally difficult, but essential. Block the person on all platforms.
Step 2: Don't Blame Yourself
These fraudsters are manipulation professionals. Doctors, lawyers, professors get scammed. It's not a question of intelligence.
Step 3: Document Everything
- Screenshots of conversations
- Photos sent by the fraudster
- History of money transfers
- Phone numbers, emails used
Step 4: Report
- Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre: 1-888-495-8501
- Local police: for an official report
- The platform: Report the fraudulent profile
- Report Quebec: to document and get support
Step 5: Seek Support
Romance fraud causes double trauma: financial and emotional. Don't hesitate to consult a professional.
How Report Quebec Can Help You
- Confidential and non-judgmental listening
- Help documenting your case
- Guidance to appropriate resources
- Support for reporting procedures